I ended up in a battle of wills with my 3 1/2 year old and that was not where I wanted to be. I give up. He will go in the potty when he’s ready and there’s nothing else I can do. I’m going to keep this post bulleted to keep from boring you to tears.
Why we waited until he was 3 1/2 to start
- We did a little elimination communication with Hugo when he was a baby. He pooped on a little potty from maybe 6 – 9 months of age. When he started walking, he wanted none of it. So the potty was not novel and interesting to him as a toddler.
- I was pregnant and really tired last year. I had a job that was an hour away. I slept a lot and he watched a lot of TV.
- New baby meant he needed to get out of our bed. I concentrated on getting Hugo to sleep all night in his bed, which he did! And no longer does. I’m so tired.
What we tried
- One M&M (or Unreal equivalent) per potty success
- Stickers on a chart
- Long term goal of a Hot Wheels play set once he’s in underwear
- Stickers on a phone app
- Bottomless (resulting in replacement of one dining room chair and needing to replace our carpet)
- Pull-Ups (and the huge drama of which characters are featured on each pull-up)
So, his new preschool director wanted to place him in the Pre-K class a year early. But those kids are 100% potty trained and get no help from the teachers or staff. I thought two months was plenty of time to get it done, and I guess I pushed too hard. He had several days of total success, so I thought he was ready. Instead, we now have a three year old who changes his own diaper.
I have no intention of pushing Hugo into kindergarten early, so it’s not a big deal that he’s with kids his own age in preschool. He seems to be enjoying his class.
I think peer pressure will end up helping. After all, he actually ate and enjoyed broccoli at school yesterday. It will happen.