I kept trying to write about Jack’s new toddler bed yesterday, but I was continually thwarted. I will take that as a hint that there’s something more urgent that I should be blogging about. There are lots of things up in the air for our family in the new year (even more than usual).
We visited my family in the Atlanta area over the holidays. It was great fun, but not as smooth as our trip to Vegas over the summer. Honestly, Hugo (recently turned four years old) is driving me up the wall. He was perfectly potty trained a month ago, but decided to take some time off for vacation. I’m still slightly abashed that I wrote about yelling at him the one time last year. We need new strategies. He’s desensitized to yelling, won’t even stay in his room for time outs unless we hold the door shut. He won’t stop a behavior when told to do so (out of embarrassment? stubbornness?). This is usually related to playing rough with Jack, who is over 24 pounds but just started walking a few weeks ago and is very unsteady.
Sometimes I am perfectly calm and can connect with Hugo and say the right thing to defuse the situation, and sometimes I lose my temper and it becomes a stand off. This kid is so stubborn! Saturday I locked him in the bathroom on the condition that he pee, and he held out for 10 minutes! That was following a regular time out for defiance, hitting, etc. We know that sometimes everyone needs a reset, but it’s not always clear how to go about that. Or whether it’s appropriate to allow a behavior to go unpunished (though punishment clearly does not work on regular basis). Last night, Hugo cried to his dad that he wanted to be good. So that’s something, at least.
Hugo’s behavior had been great since he settled in at his new preschool this fall. I thought we were over the hump with acting out and defiance. He just lost it right after his birthday. I thought it was related to the Christmas excitement and craziness, and maybe it is. This is only his second day back at school. Hopefully things will settle down.
We’re approaching the first anniversary of my husband’s solo law practice, and taking a look back at how it worked out this year and what we can expect going forward. I’m very proud of him and trust that it was the right decision to go on his own.
I’m ready for new opportunities myself. I’m freelancing from home with Jack now, but keeping an eye out for the right full time position. Job hunting right before Christmas was kind of crazy, and I’m hoping my additional bandwidth no longer dedicated to Hugo’s birthday and holiday prep will be helpful in January.
As always, I am optimistic! I hope everyone has a happy and peaceful new year.